Monday, February 15, 2010

What is Rape?

The front page of today's Metro screams "One in 4 women 'is rape victim'" based on a report from Havens.

This is clearly a shocking figure, and it's clearly intended that way, but is it actually meaningful? Have 25% of women been forced down an alley at knifepoint and abused? No. It turns out that the definition of rape they're using is "having sex when they did not want to".

So, yeah, "Not tonight dear, I've got a headache. Oh, go on then..." is rape. Who knew? Not feeling horny makes you a rape victim. Wonderful. So a substantial number of men will have been raped, too, when their wives were in the mood but they weren't.

Sometimes people have to do things they're not keen on, but which mean a great deal to someone else. It's hard work, and people are not entitled to happiness or effortless utopian relationships.

Why are these morons conflating a heinous life-destroying crime with harmless relationship obligations?

This sort of idiocy is why rape convictions are so "low" - the term has been devalued to the point where any doubt or remorse can count as "an offence", causing the number of reports to explode, but the number of actual rapes prosecuted (substantially all of them) is about the same. And that number is very low because the vast majority of the human race finds rape abhorrent.

- KoW

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Blogger London Pro-Feminist Men's Group said...

I'm a member of the London Pro-Feminist Men's Group. Rape is never acceptable, and it is never the fault of the woman. The idea that a woman 'should know what to expect if she goes back to a man's house' is based on the idea that men cannot control themselves or are naturally driven to have sex at any cost. These lies serve to absolve men of responsibility for their behaviour but they do us no service. Men need to clean up our acts: in order to gain women's trust, we need to establish a record of decent behaviour, and to show no tolerance for any form of abuse of women.

2/16/2010 11:08:00 am  
Blogger The King of Wrong said...

Well, LPFMG, did you actually read anything I said?

Your 'quote' appears nowhere in my post, is not an idea that I subscribe to, and might therefore be reasonably described as a 'straw man'.

The only point your essay touches reality is when you say that "rape is never acceptable" - a point which I made myself, in fact, and which is unequvocally supported by the vast majority of the species.

I was going to ask if your girlfriend had put you up to replying, but it seems much more likely that your supplicating attitude is what you - wrongly - think will win you affection. Which, ironically, means that if anyone does eventually give in and sleeps with you after all the begging, bartering and cajoling, then by the terms of the Haven survey it's likely to be 'rape'.

Have fun!

2/16/2010 08:46:00 pm  
Blogger Kwame Newton said...

You say that someone who is "not in the mood" and still has sex anyway is considered raped. I don't know about you, but where I live, that's called consensual sex.

2/19/2010 04:52:00 am  

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